Corporal Punishment

[Libra]

Should it be aloud in school or at home?
and if yes, how much is too much?

When I was in first grade in Greece, punishment for misbehaving was the teacher taking the yardstick, making you put your hands straight out and she would whack them on both sides.(I am laughing at it now)

If it was done to my child today I would be very angry.

 

[dele]

I would inflict corporal punishment on anyone who dared to touch my child! I've found most of the teachers I've come across are too easily influenced by their peers of even students to trust them with any form of physical punishment.

When it comes to discipline in the home, I don't believe a spanking is a bad thing. I've heard of parents who use wooden spoons or belts to spank their children, and that just appals me. I don't believe a child should ever be touched in anger or with foreign objects. But a light smack on the bum after the parent has cooled off is a good way for a child to learn when they've crossed the line.

Now I don't have any children of my own yet, so my opinions may change in the next couple years. I'd be interested to hear what people with kids think about this subject.

 

[Libra]

The feelings is a bit different before having kids and after.

Before I had kids, I knew everything

Now
I have a 17 year old, and a 9 year old. I have spanked them. My son more than my daughter.
why you might ask. My son would laugh at me and say "it didn't hurt" and he would burst out laughing, so I would give him another spank and he would continue laughing.

My daughter, when after a frustrating hour after hour after hour of asking her to do something and warning her ,I spanked her once . Her answer was "mom, why are you so harsh?" (she put me in my place)

At the school I would not accept it either.

 

[Polly Parrot]

Hmmm...I don't know. I suppose spanking as a way of making sure the child won't do something again isn't bad (as long as it's done appropriately).
My dad used to hit me, even in the face, that kind of corporal punishment is just wrong.
It's not the teacher's job to raise other people's children so they don't have the right to punish their pupils physically.

Having said that, I don't have any children of myself as of yet so who knows.

 

[Robert]

I would inflict corporal punishment on anyone who dared to touch my child! I've found most of the teachers I've come across are too easily influenced by their peers of even students to trust them with any form of physical punishment.

When it comes to discipline in the home, I don't believe a spanking is a bad thing. I've heard of parents who use wooden spoons or belts to spank their children, and that just appals me. I don't believe a child should ever be touched in anger or with foreign objects. But a light smack on the bum...

There is actually a very good reason why you would use something other then your hand to punish a child. If you use a spoon for instance, then that spoon become an object for the child to fear because it represents punishment. Most parents don't wish their hand to become something to fear.

 

[Robert]

I would rather the schools not have the authority to use corporal punishment on children. All it takes is one person to abuse that authority.

 

[Isabell]

I don't spank my kids. It wouldn't do anything. I just whisper in an angry tone and they run like hell! They get the message that mamma ain't happy, best to leave her alone.

 

[Disenthral]

in an angry tone and they run like hell! They get the message that mamma ain't happy, best to leave her alone.

haha i love that.. reminds me of a grizzly bear and her cubs or something.

 

[dele]

There is actually a very good reason why you would use something other then your hand to punish a child. If you use a spoon for instance, then that spoon become an object for the child to fear because it represents punishment. Most parents don't wish their hand to become something to fear.

Interesting point, I never thought of that.

 

[Litany]

So instead you raise a child with an intense spoon phobia? It's bollocks anyway. Children aren't so stupid that they don't know who's hitting them. I know people who were hit with spoons instead of hands and they certainly don't hate their parents any less than the ones who were slapped.

My parents didn't have to hit me to punish me. Corporal punishment wasn't allowed at my school, and there were still terrifying teachers there that you wouldn't dream of crossing. If you have to hit someone to prove your authority then you never had any authority to begin with.

 

[SFG75]

I would rather the schools not have the authority to use corporal punishment on children. All it takes is one person to abuse that authority.

An excellent point! During my earlier elementary years, I attended school in Oklahoma, which still had corporal punishment. The teachers would leave their doors open so that we could all hear someone get spanked by the principal. It was a very frightening thing to listen to. It was also used inappropriately many a time. I had a teacher who would call up students two by two at the chalkboard. She would tell you what multiplication problem you were to write on the board and then you were to solve it. She had the paddle in hand, in case anyone cheated and looked at the person's answer next to them. It never occured to her to have both kids do different problems, let alone that two young kids would just stare at each other out of their wits, thus "inviting" a smack from Mrs. Ratchet.

From my own experience and that of working with difficult kids, the less corporal punishment or physical contact, the better. If you work with challenging youth populations, you know that more can be accomplished through less abusive ways.

 

[Sybarite]

Presumably, all children who received or receive corporal punishment from the parents/teachers etc go on to become fully-adjusted and well-behaved, law-abiding adults. While all those who didn't, go on to become trouble-causers and criminals.

Are the prisons full of people who never had a spanking or slippering?