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first and second date?

honeydevil

honeydevil

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how do you charm or entice (??) a man or a woman into your bed or at least a second date?

Or how do you ask him or her out on the first one?
 
honeydevil said:
how do you charm or entice (??) a man or a woman into your bed or at least a second date?

Or how do you ask him or her out on the first one?
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it varies from person to person, some girls simply wont get into your bed on the second, fifth or tenth date, and others wont need more than a simple gesture :eek: (or some alcohol :D )
 
mr_michel said:
it varies from person to person, some girls simply wont get into your bed on the second, fifth or tenth date, and others wont need more than a simple gesture :eek:
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true but if you go out and find somebody nice adn you want to see this somebody again or go on a date with... i just mean the stupid lines people sometimes use... or something like that. sorry that i can't describe it any more detailed, it si kinda hard to say what i want to say without narrowing down the responses. :eek:
 
ok i like to take them to some place where we can talk, they like to talk, i listen, make some smart, some funny, and some sassy (is that the word) comments, thats pretty much the real me, im a really good listener and have a tendecy for sarcasm and dark humor (is that right in english?), if they like what they see and heard, well have for sure a second date and maybe something else :)
 
honeydevil said:
how do you charm or entice (??) a man or a woman into your bed or at least a second date?

Or how do you ask him or her out on the first one?
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Heh. My boyfriend and I have been together for five years. Before that we were best friends and I was living with him for a couple weeks. We used to watch TV in his bed all the time and one night we just ended up hooking up. No convincing needed.

I'm so glad I'm done with all that nonsense though... I never really had much problem getting a second date because most of the guys I dated in high school and early college were more into me than I was into them. I never really had the guts to ask out the guys I really liked. The only time I ever did was with Tom (my current boyfriend) when a few days after we hooked up I decided we should date. I did it by phone and it was the hardest thing I ever did.
 
mr_michel said:
ok i like to take them to some place where we can talk, they like to talk, i listen, make some smart, some funny, and some sassy (is that the word) comments, thats pretty much the real me, im a really good listener and have a tendecy for sarcasm and dark humor (is that right in english?), if they like what they see and heard, well have for sure a second date and maybe something else :)
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the real you that's interesting. how can you be unreal or somebody else, sorry that always confuses me. oh and congratulations to your 1000 post.
 
honeydevil said:
the real you that's interesting. how can you be unreal or somebody else, sorry that always confuses me. oh and congratulations to your 1000 post.
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think of this as marketing, you are selling something, yourself, if you want to do a "quick sale" either you must make look the product more attractive than what really are (or maybe not make it look better than what really is, but at least show the best features on the first demo). thats why many times when dating we act different totally different to the way we would act with those closer to us.
 
"how can you be unreal or somebody else"

That is such a "girl" question. I love it. :)

I can be a doctor, a surgeon, a lawyer, a pilot, and/or a race car driver. I can be whatever it is I think you want to hear if I want to get you into a physical relationship. If I want the relationship to last, it would be in my best interest to be honest...but how many guys are thinking that far ahead?????

It's pretty easy to be somebody else. That's why guys dance when you first meet them, but then after a few months, or years into a relationship they all of a sudden stop dancing and tell you they've never really liked that kind of thing. They just did it to make you happy....

Some guys will do absolutely anything to "get" the girl. Including being anything but themselves.

I'm sure all girls are always honest, and up-front about everything.... :D
 
i will post more later but honeydevil, 2 thumbs up and a twirl with all the fun threads. we appreciate it.

jenn
 
I can tell how it has been with my wife.
I met her when I worked on a construction site, so, naturally, we could have dinner together at the workers' canteen. During our first dinner at the canteen I found out that she liked some special cake, and she said that she could eat a lot of it. I immediately offered a bet: if she could eat a standard cake all by herself (not a small one really, it usually takes two people to eat it) - I will present her a bottle of shampagne, if she failed - she will present one to me. So I do not exactly remember which way it happened, but one of us bought a bottle and we drank it at my flat. That's it really. We live together for sixteen years since then, if I remember correctly...
 
My husband said that he knew I was interested in him the night we met because my pupils dialated while we were talking and he felt like he was looking right into my soul. So he asked me out. Can't fake that, I think.
 
i know i'm naive, but sorry i would never try to be somebody else than i really am. i had to be when i was a kid and it makes me feel strange and unhonest. Maybe it is a girly question or it is just me.
 
open, honest, and real is great, and the way it should be....

just don't be shocked when you discover that not everybody thinks that way...especially horny, young guys....they will lie, cheat, and steal to get what they want, and if you are what they want, you better hope you can see through the lies and get to the truth before it's too late....
 
honeydevil said:
i know i'm naive, but sorry i would never try to be somebody else than i really am. i had to be when i was a kid and it makes me feel strange and unhonest. Maybe it is a girly question or it is just me.
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Don't tell Motokid I said so but I don't think it's a "girl" question.

I wish more people would be themselves when it comes to dating. My sons father loses weight just before dating then once he's got someone he immediately gains it all back. He shouldn't lose weight just to try and get someone to date him. The person I dated prior tried to impress me with tales of how neat and tidy he is. When I saw his highly untidy apartment he claimed that it was because he was still settling in. For four years I heard excuse after excuse for his untidiness. He's not a tidy person, lying about it is just stupid.

And there you have two examples of people not being who they really are - from my perspective any way.
 
Motokid said:
open, honest, and real is great, and the way it should be....

just don't be shocked when you discover that not everybody thinks that way...especially horny, young guys....they will lie, cheat, and steal to get what they want, and if you are what they want, you better hope you can see through the lies and get to the truth before it's too late....
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oh man moto is concerned, that is quite something, :eek: but i think its rather funny how some guys fly flat on their face by pretendign something. very funny, specially when they drink and tell you later that they were lying and you knew it all along. :)
 
honeydevil said:
sorry moto, but i don't think i need protection. Not from you or anybody else...but thanks anyway.
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wait...you're a young female student who's just admitted to being naive, and admitted to not understanding how anybody can pretend to not be themselves.....

You certanly don't need protection from me...but it sounds like I have just cause to be concerned...especially since I do consider you to be a "forum" friend...
 
sorry to burst your bubble, but i can take care of myself and if somebody tries to get into my business i normally get kinda pissy about it... You know you learn a lot when you take care of yourself for almost ten years. so buss out...
 
oh cute. you guys are having your first father/daughter fight. moto take note. this will be your girls in 5-7 years.
 
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