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Sigh - flatmates

Catalyst

Catalyst

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For the first 2 years of uni i lived with 5 girls. I am now living with just one girl, of which i didnt have much of a choice. I couldnt live with hte people i wanted. So i ended up living with a girl from my class.
Ok this girl is nice enough. We get on to an extent. She is 2 years younger which may not seem like a lot but it really is.
It gettin to the point where i want to move out. But my lease cant be broken. I try to ignore her bitchyness. She doesnt let me work as she is always and i mean always on the phone. She is also welsh, which i dont hold against her :p but she gabbles on in welsh down the phone all day and is very annoying. Our flat has quite thin walls so i can always hear her. She was quite skint during hte first 6 weeks of term and i paid for her food and other stuff like bills. She paid me for the bills but hasnt paid me back for the food saying she will buy the majority of meals from now on. Now she complains if i eat food she buys :confused:

I am not an immature person. This sort of stuff bothers me as i cant phathom why she is being so immature. I try to ignore her behaviour and spend most of my time out of the flat with my boyfriend, which i dont see as fair but it keeps the peace for most of the time.

What else can i do? I have until July to put up with her and i have exams and essays to do.

Sorry for the rant.
 
Can't ou break the lease if someone else agrees to move in and take over payments for you? Just something to consider-haven't been in that situation in a long time.
 
I think she needs to agree to that too. Im going to spend the next few days at my boyfriends. So i can do my work. He lives at his parents just now because the sale of his new house isnt complete. I get on with his parents though.
Yeah.....i sometime hate being a student. Just want to settle down! :)
 
Catalyst said:
I think she needs to agree to that too.
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I'm not sure what the laws are like in the UK, but here your flatmate certainly does not need to agree to a sublet. Check your lease to make sure there aren't any "anti-subletting" clauses. If there aren't find someone annoying for her to live with.
 
Just explode and go a bit psycho. She'll either be too scared to annoy you or she'll move out herself.

It's always worked for me. :)
 
I was in the bad flatmate situation last year. I lived with three other girls, and one of their boyfriends. Living with a couple is hard. They very much felt that it was their house and we just paid rent. It came to a head a few times, and I no longer consider that person a friend.

Doesn't it get to the point where you're having arguments with them in your head? Very bad for the mental situation.

Anyway, the whole experience made me hate uni and the city so much that I moved home for this year, where I plan to stay after I move out of the folks' house next year.

So I definitely sympathise. I would suggest talking to her, but that's hard with only the two of you there. Get the hell out is my next suggestion.
 
Well its come to it that we have silently agreed to not talk, therefore keeping the situation quiet, yet tense.
Its as if she is a teenager trying to rebel! Against what i dont know. She plays loud music just to piss me off as she knows i cant study with music, where as she can, somehow.
I tried to talk to her but she just curtly says 'i have to wash up' or 'i have to do my work' or whatever. So i am happy ignoring her. My mum is right in saying i have to be selfish and think of myself lol. As in htink of my studies and ignore her behaviour. I am a people pleaser which is my problem. Il feel bad if i up and leave her to live with a stranger. She would flip :D

Just explode and go a bit psycho
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I like this idea. I do archery....i could practice in the flat lol!

Doesn't it get to the point where you're having arguments with them in your head?
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Yes! I imagine what i am going to say to her and what she'l say back. But it never works out that way. Im rubbish at confrontation.
 
Ahhhhh! Oh dear God! I had to share this with you as it is so funny! My flat mate told me this morning why she wasnt talkin to me this time.....it was because on Sunday when i got up and she was on the phone i waved at her and said hello......:confused: She said it was very rude to try and talk to her when she was talking to someone.
I laughed....in her face! I said it was meaningless! I then walked out! But i thought of lots more things to say to her. Like grow the hell up you immature child! Imagine in the future if your boss or work mate said somehitng you didnt like. Are you going to ignore them for days on end...!?

Sigh.....:eek:
 
Hah! Just choose your flat mates wisely! Or find a man and move in with him......though that may be worse :D Which i hope its not as i may have agreed to move in with mine next year. Scary thought!
 
Congratulations. What's the name of the school?

On another note, I'm also starting college soon. I can only hope that if I do indeed live off-campus, I won't have to worry about a crazy roommate...
 
My caution would be to those who are living in dorm or residence style accomodation. I did this for my first year of uni. I had the most annoying neighbour in the world, she was always watching tv in my room. Then, because she did it, all my friends started doing it, so my room became the living room. Not good for studying, or for the essential alone time.

Learn to lock your door and wear headphones, people!
 
Oh well done about being accepted. I also stayed in halls in first year. You do make lots of friends but if you are an anti social bunny like me it can be difficult. I like my quiet and privacy. I suggest ear plugs! When i was on placement i had to get up early everyday where as other folk in hte halls didnt so stayed up all night playig music.
Dont be afraid to be seen as the spoilsport. Whats a few months telling people to shut up compared to having bad marks on your record because you couldnt sleep/study etc. :)
 
LOL. Thanks for the warning--I have to live in a dorm the first year. I visited and the dorms look pretty cozy, and everyone seemed to get along. They were kind of walking into each other's rooms, but no one seemed to care. One girl had made cookies and the whole floor was in her room getting one. It was pretty funny.

I don't suppose it'll hurt to say that I'm going to be attending Truman State University. I'm kind of wary of giving out personal info but I don't think that much will do any damage. I'm very excited and I plan to study ancient Egyptian history. I'm thinking that I might transfer to Oxford after I've gotten a bachelor's at Truman. Eventually, I want to be able to work in Egypt with archaeologists and other fun people. I've always been a bit obsessed with pyramids.
 
I really like Litany's advice. :p Good luck with that!

I'm in the same boat as a few others in this thread in that I'm applying for university too at the moment! I got my first "We have recieved your aplication, but won't make any decisions until the deadline so that everyone else has a chance, blah, blah, blah" email today so I'm getting excited. :D

This thread is a little worrying though, as I have been wondering what it will be like to live in the halls with a bunch of other people for a year... I've seen one of the different accomindation blocks at Glasgow Uni (my prefered place) and I have to say 8 to a kitchen and bathroom may get a little annoying. I'm just hoping that I don't get someone too annoying right next to me...
 
i agree about seeing if someone else would take your spot and payments. also, remind her that she said she would pay for food for a while since you bought her food for a bit. arrange for her to pay for the length of time you paid.
 
congrats! where?

btw, because girls can be so catty at times and difficult to live with over pettiness like we are reading, look for a gay male to share a flat with! great friends and roommates.
 
lady.cordelia said:
congrats! where?

btw, because girls can be so catty at times and difficult to live with over pettiness like we are reading, look for a gay male to share a flat with! great friends and roommates.
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I must support this. Gay guys are great to be around. My best friend is a gay guy and I wanted to rent an apartment with him and go to the same college, but unfortunately he is attending elsewhere. I'm rather sad. I wanted to be able to spend more time with him; my girlfriends aren't nearly so fun to shop with or to cook and watch movies with.
 
Actually the girls i lived with in 1st and 2nd year were all bi or lesbian :) Apart from this one girl who iv ended up living with and i get on with her the least. In fact this girl is as opposite you can get. She is a bit of a manoholic!
 
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