Good links Marie. They go a long way towards explaining what Bombadil is, to be sure, even though most of what they talked about wasn't in the Fellowship. A reader can't really pick any of it up in the context of the book itself. Bombadil appears as this manlike persona that interrupts an errand to get some lillies for his Lady to save a handfull of wayward hobbits. Then saves them again from the Barrow Wights. I have to say, savage_henry, that your friends might be a bit shortsighted--don't take offence please most of the folks I know look down their nose at me if I mention SciFi or Fantasy. Like most of the characters or places in Tolkein's works it seems that there was a purpose and a place even if we couldn't see it--poor us.
Personally, I think Bombadil makes people uncomfortable because he is geeky, eccentric, and generally unconcerned with anything but his lands and his Lady. He is happy being himself, he wears bright colors and even stockings with high boots and is still manly, and simply is. People don't like being reminded that whats in you matters more than what you have, do, or wear. It would be tough going putting that in a movie and expect people to watch it when what they really came to see was Aragorn's sword glittering and orc heads flying from great swings of Gimli's axe!
Personally, I think Bombadil makes people uncomfortable because he is geeky, eccentric, and generally unconcerned with anything but his lands and his Lady. He is happy being himself, he wears bright colors and even stockings with high boots and is still manly, and simply is. People don't like being reminded that whats in you matters more than what you have, do, or wear. It would be tough going putting that in a movie and expect people to watch it when what they really came to see was Aragorn's sword glittering and orc heads flying from great swings of Gimli's axe!