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Need book suggestions for a sister...

Flor said:
Hi Def and all,

I'm wondering if perhaps you could just give her a book that validates her love of reading and doesn't carry with it any hint of selfhelp or any implication that she's needing it. That age is a really difficult time for many girls/women, because they are still mostly girls being faced with choices and long term consequences that propel them into womanhood. The lucky ones are directed, focused, motivated, and energetically going about all those developmental tasks that we need to achieve. Others take a while, sometimes a long while, to mature. How bout finding out what she likes to read and buying her something similar, whether it's fiction, humor, classics, etc. By reflecting what she likes, you really come in as the shining hero it sounds like you are!
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That is always an option. That Fear of Flying book sounds like a fictional book, not so heavily on the self-help side of things. Even a book that just may inspire her or perhaps envolk some deeper thought.

For me, books like Catcher in the Rye, To Kill a Mockingbird, After the First Death, At Risk (seriously, I didn't think I was going to like that book as much as I did), these books were not just good, but sparked feelings, emotions, and thought processes that enlightened me. You know, books that move you.

Lord of the Rings and The Hobbit, or Tom Clancy novels are just for enjoyment purposes (although if you read between the lines of Tolkiens books, one can find deeper discusions, same for Harry Potter).

Then again, I am an easily moved person ;-)
 
Your sister may benefit from a fictional book with a sympathetic character who is going through a similar situation as her and overcomes it in the end. It may inspire her to do better.

Unfortunately, I do not know of any! I'm not as familiar as you are with your sister's situation, either, so maybe you should do some research. Maybe amazon.com keywords will help you out.
 
DefStatic said:
To sum that up, sure, I COULD ask her what book she would want, but it would probably be just another book that is a good read, not neccisarily a book that might actually help her as well. I hope I don't come across angry, just thought I would explain a bit better.
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You did so perfectly, thank you. Its great to want to help and get a great book for her to read and learn from, but maybe now is the time to work on a relationship with her. Find out who she is while you help her find out who she wants to be. :eek:
 
DefStatic said:
That Fear of Flying book sounds like a fictional book, not so heavily on the self-help side of things. Even a book that just may inspire her or perhaps envolk some deeper thought.
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Fear of Flying is a great book. I've got a coworker reading it now, female 22ish, and a friend who's 30 reading it also. Both are really excited to finish it.

It touches on everything real that a woman/young woman thinks about. Almost everything. And it is so real. It's a fictional story, yes, but based on real emotions and questions, that I'm sure she'll find rather amusing and be able to question herself if not help her at all. She may be too young for this story to really learn from it, but it will none the less make for a great read.
 
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This may sound silly, but I've been where I think your sister is now and one genre that really appealed to me was romantic suspense novels with strong female leads. I think of these as sort of fairy tales for adults (there's always a positive ending, etc). I would suggest some of Nora Roberts' stand alone novels (she has strong female lead characters) and the J.D. Robb series if your sister doesn't mind a mix of futuristic interests. Again, I know it might seem silly, but sometimes a book is best when it allows as much escape and positive dreams as anything else, and when you are really stressed out, sometimes something a little lighter is best.

Just a thought.
 
She's come undone by Wally Lamb might serve the purpose.

I also highly recommend The Good Wife by Stewart O'nan.

If she digs historical Anita Diamant's The Red Tent is a good one.

Paul Auster's Moon Palace served a similiar purpose for me in some respects but likely won't connect as well.

All should be easy to find and you can research reviews on all to gte a better idea if one of them may achieve the effect.
 
I don't mean to butt in, but here's my 2 cents. I know from personal experiance that there is a lot that can happen between the ages of 22 and 25. Not everyone finds their direction right away. Just let her know that you are there for her, and give her time. Like you said it really could be worse. Trust me.
 
cent said:
I don't mean to butt in, but here's my 2 cents. I know from personal experiance that there is a lot that can happen between the ages of 22 and 25. Not everyone finds their direction right away. Just let her know that you are there for her, and give her time. Like you said it really could be worse. Trust me.
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You are right on it.....in those 3 years, maybe 4 or 5 even, soooooooooo much can happen. So much DOES happen. And, sometimes, we don't listen. We just have to live it, and get passed it, and we will. We do.
 
DOES ANYBODY KNOW WHAT HE ENDED UP BUYING FOR HIS SISTER? It's like he came on here only for that question and hasn't been back.
 
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