Wabbit said:
I REALLY don't like or agree with that sentence and in fact find it slightly offencive. How can you say? I am a male and I am sure I find rape as abhorrent and sickening as you do.
Perhaps you personally do. However, if you happened to wander into discussion forums when the Kobe Bryant case was going full swing, you'd be disturbed and dismayed, listening to the men.
I was angry and disgusted.
When people have the cover of anonymity, their true selves are revealed. The men called the victim a number of names, the most flattering of which was "whore." The "c" word was used most often. They got their biggest laughs finding new and imaginative derogatory terms for her, and attacked anyone who suggested they should be a little "kinder" (I took all kinds of abuse because I went in there swinging). They described the things someone needed to do to her, to "punish" her for bringing Bryant to trial. They were exceptionally descriptive, stomach-turning, vengeful, painful and evil things they were wishing on her.
So, when a woman is a victim of rape, she mostly hides it. Why set herself up for a psychological rape as well? The Kobe Bryant trial probably set rape back 50 years in the minds of women who might otherwise have stepped forward to tell police they were raped.
I think in some respects men don't view women as entirely "human", since they can wish that kind of pain on them, or be completely insensitive to it when it's brought to their attention. In some respects, that insensitivity "dehumanizes" men, at least in the minds of women.
There are exceptions, of course. I just never saw them on those boards, and I haunted them, looking. Because it was important to me to find it. And I didn't.